Dating Tante Mia is a subject that often causes confusion and even sometimes argument among some people as to what constitutes actual Chinese culture, and real-world Chinese dating etiquette in today's day and age. This confusion is further caused by certain false assumptions by westerners, and even by
Tante Mia themselves making false representation for their own benefit.
This is one of the big problems I faced for years as a westerner dating
Tante Mia, the fact that many of the girls told me things that were supposedly part of Chinese culture, of course insinuating that I should follow this in order to be a good boyfriend, yet I found many of these Chinese customs were things that actually even Chinese guys didn't follow.
This creates a bit of a trap if you don't stop it in the beginning, as in Chinese culture, things do not get easier for a westerner if you follow Chinese culture, things actually get harder!